Guys Don’t Like to Get Flowers (updated)
UPDATE: The last major mass gift-giving event was just last month, and sofia’s thoughts on Christmas Shopping were great (commenters had some good ideas too). Never too early to get ready for the next mass gift holiday, Valentine’s Day….
Guys tend to like manly gifts, not girly ones. Flower bouquets, sexy couture sweaters, and pretty cupcakes are probably not what he wants from Cupid, the Tooth Fairy, Santa or you.
I’ve seen girls give men long-stem roses on Valentine’s Day and fashionable outfits on birthdays.
I’ve seen girls give prettily-decorated baked goods to men who don’t like fussy desserts.
I’ve seen girls elaborately wrap gifts, which the men then rip through, flippantly tossing the shreds of paper into the trash.
I’m sure these gestures were appreciated by the male recipients, but these girls weren’t winning any extra points. The girls seemed to be thinking of themselves rather than the recipient: what they’d like to get (roses), wish he’d use (clothes), or used as a pretense to see him again (surprise cupcakes).
A few important principles to follow with any gifts:
Gifts should be appropriate to the closeness of the relationship.
Gifts should balance what the giver wishes to give, and what the recipient would likely want.
|Dating(“getting to know”)||
~Keep it simple, not too expensive, and don’t spend too much time preparing it.~
|Relationship(exclusive “boyfriend-girlfriend”)||Any of the Dating suggestions above; taking extra steps with cost and/or effort is fine:
~Don’t go overboard, but feel free to step things up.~
|Commitment(marriage or serious LTR)||Any of the Dating and Relationship suggestions above; feel free to go as far as you want now:
~Go ahead and treat him like a king. But do it all year long, not just on special occasions.~
Some gifts not recommended unless you are sure he buys it for himself and wants more, AND you are comfortable giving it: male grooming products, male “lingerie,” flowers and plants, spa treatments, kitchen or home items, picture frames or scrapbooks, a quilt you stitched by hand, lap dances from strippers, etc.