Submissive Women are the Rule NOT the Exception – they just don’t know it.
Those of you who’ve read the The Girls section of this blog will see that I’ve identified myself as a submissive woman, in fact, I say I’m not ashamed to say it. The reason I say I’m not ashamed is primarily because there is shame attached to the idea of being submissive to anyone in our present age. I also mention I’m girly – to me the two go hand in hand. Let me explain.
Submission is a loaded word for a woman to use. It has different meanings depending on the listener. Some view it as an entirely sexual term and connect it to BDSM. BDSM standing for Bondage/Discipline/Sadism/Masochism in the kink community. So, for some, to admit they’re submissive can connect the listener immediately to sexual persuasion/preference. For others the idea of being submissive means being a “doormat”. It implies a woman without a backbone, perhaps even a less-than-intelligent woman. Some link it to religious beliefs and recall this passage, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord” Ephesians 5:22.
I believe the desire for a woman to be submissive to her man is innate, plus I believe women are wired to be submissive to proper authority in general. Submissive, as I see it, is described as agreement, respect, duty, or deference. I don’t personally view it as meek, passive or tameness. I believe submissiveness is a feminine trait and I believe women have lost touch with this inborn need.
Society today encourages Grrrl Power which manifests in women by encouraging ambition, assertiveness, and individualism. Not necessarily bad traits on their own, but when used to beat down a woman who wants to serve others or her man, they are very detrimental. Feminism has hurt women by declaring we’re equal to men and can have everything they have, in fact, they claim we can have everything without men, children included. I’m not saying we’re not equal in some respects because after all we’re human beings and deserve fair and equitable treatment. Whether one believes by Higher Power or or by evolutionary design we don’t seem to accept the fact that men and women are inherently different? Why fight to be seen the same?
In my opinion women have lost the art of loveliness, class and girly-girl femininity. We’ve lost sight of our need to submit to our men and we’re losing out. (This needs to be said : I don’t believe a women should submit to simply anyone- a woman submits to someone who has earned her trust – period. There are some pretty stupid women calling themselves submissives these days for purely sexual reasons and men are convincing them to do anything for them by using their submissiveness claims. Both sides of that coin are incredibly dumb. Just sayin…)
I need to add that I’ve been challenged about my own submissiveness based on the fact I run a company. I have no difficulty reconciling the two. I have a need to serve. Whether it’s the company or my man I will ensure the best outcome for both – by serving. I am The Boss but I accomplish while retaining my inherent feminine qualities because I believe I am a woman first. I’m not trying to be a man.
I expect I’ll make more women angry with this post than men. I simply challenge those of you who feel an emotional rise to ask yourself if your defensiveness is because I might be speaking uncomfortable truth. I also understand there are some outliers who are legitimately dominant just like there are submissive men in our mix. This post wasn’t to condemn you, rather it was to encourage those of us with submissive, feminine natures to accept ourselves.
I like to leave my men happy, so here’s a little vid for ya.