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Girl Game Changes

April 28, 2010
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Our former style was to maintain a rotating schedule. There have been some difficulties with posting on GG in this way due to various factors but we sustained it for a good while considering we’re busy girls. We certainly don’t want to exert any pressure on each other for any of the girls to post. It’s no good without self-gratification and enjoying exploring your ideas. We’re officially formalising now that we have changed to a ‘post when you feel like it!’ style. We can’t promise you a regular schedule as such, so add us to your rss feed aggregators (e.g. Google Reader), subscribe to the blog via email or check us however you like. I predict intense variability.

Currently I am now de facto in charge, as I currently some time and inclination to devote to this site, although this will change very soon.

We’ve been going on for the best part of a year now and it’s great to have feedback. So please everyone readers and GirlGamers , give me your thoughts and input. Publicly if possible! Don’t be too mean ;)

Just to let you know we’re open to submissions and indeed calling for them. Guest writers has been something we’ve always discussed. If there is anything remotely connected to the topic of knowing how to love men, how a woman can better her life or an opinion piece on gender relations you want to submit, we’d welcome it. I’d suggest you e-mail us collectively (e-mails are on our The Girls page) and whomever is available will give you an answer within a hopeful target time of one day. Regular contributors will get their name in pink lights to the right.

Some of you whom we (by that, I  mean I or one of the other girls) have found interesting will be getting e-mails. I dearly hope you contribute!

I believe our strength is in our diversity. We’ve managed to accommodate perspectives that range across ethnicities, experiences, political and spiritual inclinations. Synthesising them along with comparing anecdotal evidence to data has enlightened us all. The arguments we’ve had have made us grow. We’ve constantly reminded ourselves through this venture about the importance of investing in relationships, in men and in healthy attitudes. I admit we’ve played our jokes. We like to have fun, we like to play but to be honest this Game? It’s our life.

We’re very male friendly and that’s the tone we set in our different ways. I’d love articles from men if they feel this venue is suitable: I believe men have very important things to say about the nature of love and sexuality of a female in the modern times. I welcome articles commenting on strategies on how to exploit men: I believe this engenders a great discussion as well as enlightens male readers as to the wiles and ways of women. I even welcome articles that delve into your ideas about men that aren’t male friendly, although I’d attach a disclaimer to it depending and you have to be ready for some intense deconstruction of your ideas, which hopefully is open-minded.

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That’s all, folks. It’s been a great ride so far thanks to LIL, and I hope we can continue to grow, incubate, fertilise and nurture GirlGame together.

12 Comments leave one →
  1. Firepower permalink
    April 28, 2010 12:02 pm

    i actually like the stuff here.
    you are all pretty male friendly – most of you.
    even more than the spearhead.
    my only suggestion is post more Daisy Duke shots and high heels stuff.
    you’ll need to pick up the slack with the departure of youknowwho

  2. April 28, 2010 12:40 pm

    I like the abbreviation GG. It’s total nerdy gamer speak! :)

  3. Rebekah permalink
    April 28, 2010 3:39 pm

    I’m glad you are keeping the site! Even though I’m older than most of the ladies who post and comment, I still get quite a bit out of the discussion and really enjoy reading here. I’m also glad LILGRL will still be around, and totally understand her need to take a break and focus on the matters at hand in life.

    If there is anything remotely connected to the topic of knowing how to love men, how a woman can better her life or an opinion piece on gender relations you want to submit, we’d welcome it.

    I think this is good. Perhaps this will inspire some creative liberty by not strictly limiting topics to how to get a boyfriend.

    I believe our strength is in our diversity. We’ve managed to accommodate perspectives that range across ethnicities, experiences, political and spiritual inclinations. Synthesising them along with comparing anecdotal evidence to data has enlightened us all.

    Agreed!

  4. April 29, 2010 6:52 pm

    I always enjoy the articles here when I take a peek. If I were less lazy, I’d comment more and let y’all know what a good job you’re doing more often.

    If there is anything remotely connected to the topic of knowing how to love men, how a woman can better her life or an opinion piece on gender relations you want to submit, we’d welcome it.
    If you might be interested in something about long distance love, I’d be happy to contribute a guest post sometime. As a military wife, I know a thing or two about keeping a relationship alive through distance, extreme stress, limited communication, and house fires on Christmas Eve. ;)

  5. April 29, 2010 7:04 pm

    I’m glad you ladies enjoy this place(and Firepower too: your request noted).

    I’d welcome a contribution from you, Hestia, and long-distance has been something that has come up in many contexts. Many of us have experience with it, and talking about it would be very interesting.

    I remember a commenter somewhere talking about it as the ultimate test he would use for a woman.

    Rebekah:

    Perhaps this will inspire some creative liberty by not strictly limiting topics to how to get a boyfriend.

    Always good to change it up! We did largely talk about those rough topics, if you scan our archives.

  6. Doug1 permalink
    April 30, 2010 6:50 pm

    Would it be terrible to use this thread to publish over here a thought experiment for some changes that I think would in the medium term, after about 10 tough transitional years, greatly strengthen marriage and thus families, and lead to far less single motherhood?

    I want you all to consider this as a thought experiment. Including most definitely for women to do so.

    That is work out what would happen after a decade if…..

    1) Mandatory child support is abolished for unwed mothers who don’t have an agreement in writing from a man to help support the kids that man would have a) not “oopsed and become preggers with, accidentally on purpose, and b) aborted or given up for adoption if he had had that option. This is done for women not yet pregnant effective immediately, and for women preggers or now receiving child support on a five year phase out basis, one fifth less CS this year than the prior existing law, and so on to zero. Any man not agreeing in writing to help support such a kid would however lose all parental visitation and other rights forever. I’m looking to make having “oops” babies a really poor idea.

    2) Welfare is similarly abolished on a five year phase out basis. Babies will be taken from mothers who can’t or won’t find work and child care and farmed out to whatever is best, however substandard. Any man not agreeing in writing to help support such a kid would however lose all parental visitation and other rights forever. Yes this is punitive to welfare sluts/failures/retards by intention. So they and their replacements coming in won’t have babies. Get your tubes tied girl if you can’t make it.

    3) In divorce for any reason children by default go to their father’s custody with no one owing mandatory child support. (A large part of the reason for this is to greatly discourage the high rates of divorce we have now with dependent children, which are overwhelmingly initiated by women under the current custody and sky high child support regime we have now.) Pre negotiations that is. Some/many men won’t want to care for infants or young children as that’s naturally women’s work. They will want ample visitation, most of them.

    A negotiation will ensue. Men who REALLY don’t want child care responsibilities will have to pay more to induce canny ex wives to take the kids. Meanwhile if a man takes custody but is a truly neglectful parent, then after the kinds of warnings currently given to women before custody is taken from them and given to the fathers, in the end the mother gets custody and the dad in this limited number of cases has to pay the high current child support =also alimony we have now. Men esp. more successful ones or those that have found a new woman, often will want custody of older children, and older kids will usually be better off with their fathers as well.

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    I don’t want to hear anyone tell me how this can never be made to happen. I want to hear what you all think will be the social result in 10 years if this was made the law. If you give your thoughts on that, then sure, give your thoughts on anything else you want, such as how this can’t be made the law while women have the vote.

  7. Bhetti permalink*
    April 30, 2010 7:37 pm

    Doug:
    There’d be more women in the workforce. Uptake of contraception and use of abortion would be higher.

    I think overall children will have more stable environments. Overall, there would be better familial health. I think men may paradoxically be less likely to divorce due to the prospect of having to try and care for their kid alone. Women likely wouldn’t want to lose children, either, although not necessarily.

    You’d have lower rates of physical abuse of kids relative rates of sexual abuse of kids (because of who gets custody: mainly talking about going into the care of the state as opposed to mothers.) Overall, lower rates of abuse though.

  8. Doug1 permalink
    April 30, 2010 8:11 pm

    Very interesting reply Bhetti.

    There’d be more women in the workforce during the transitional period (which would be rough and there’d be a TON of wailing and dire predictions). I’m not at all sure that that’s how it would stabilize out though.

    I think most of the women who would gladly leave their children with their ex husbands now already do so.

    I’m personally convinced that the vast majority of accidental pregnancies are accidentally on purpose. Both the fully consciously planned kind, and the much more common impulsively wanted or subconsciously planned kind. Variously in hopes the guy will marry her, wanting both his seed and his child support if he won’t, or just not feeling the downsides are so big so give into the urge w/this particular guy.

    When there was far less birth control available there were vastly fewer pregnancies outside of marriage as well. In the US the rate of unwed at the time of childbirthing was about 6% in 1960, whereas it’s 40% overall today.

  9. Doug1 permalink
    April 30, 2010 8:20 pm

    I.e. I’m convinced the number of out of wedlock pregnancies would absolutely plummet under this changed set of child support laws.

    Also I think women would be a good lot more careful to marry and only have children with men who they think really want to be and will be good fathers. Good fathers want the woman to remain around almost always.

    This wouldn’t have a big effect on certain kids of marriages. Those w/out kids. Either married too young and broke up w/out kids, or long ones without. THat’s ok. Those aren’t the sort of marriages it’s so important to keep intact while the kids are minors.

  10. Bhetti permalink*
    April 30, 2010 8:42 pm

    We live in a climate where people don’t think it’s necessary to marry to have children. It’s more a luxurious dream party to have whenever you think you can afford it. Renders marriage mostly meaningless anyway.

    It’s pretty much a two-parent income economy. So there’s no choice, especially without benefits. Flexible working for both, though.

    Without actually getting rid of contraceptive availability, I don’t think amount of pregnancies would quite decrease a lot as far as contraceptive wise. Although perhaps some girls a little more careful. Abortions certainly would experience an uptick. Paranoia about getting pregnant is more a social pressure, I feel. As well not many women are practical about money, especially with the debt culture still persvasive despite economy.

    Certainly the prospect of losing kids on divorce should make women think more carefully about potential dads.

  11. Doug1 permalink
    April 30, 2010 8:48 pm

    What would you do differently, law wise?

  12. Bhetti permalink*
    April 30, 2010 10:15 pm

    That would require some thought, my love. Saying what laws should be abolished is easy but designing them to help the status quo…

    … how can laws repair ideological change?

    I think simply abolishing laws that’re pretty much grossly anti-male though would solve and move society in a way more than some might think.

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