Everyone Is Not Beautiful
I was reading through this post by Lindsay at Fooditude and this line struck me:
We are all beautiful.
No, not all of us are beautiful.
Why did Lindsay say this? You have to take her post into context. She was worrying about the nation’s eating disorders and the self-image of women that lead them to this:
Over 8 million people in the US are suffering from an eating disorder, and 90% of those are women. We need to stop asking ourselves why we don’t look like the women on the screen or in the magazines. They are starving themselves.
Let me point out that the figure easily eclipses this if you include diet-induced obesity (it’s closer to 100 million). Obesity is the major eating disorder facing us today. Like Lindsay says, “Everything in moderation” and it does indeed go both ways. The facts are that the majority of us in the developed world are overeating, not undereating.
Either way, saying lines like ‘Everyone is beautiful’ when it’s simply not true will not cure the population of their eating disorders. I’m an advocate for healthy living. I don’t think feelgood deceptive statements help in the cause of making you feel that you should be healthy, should make an effort and that you can trust who’s feeding you that line despite their good intentions.
The facts are that we are probably distributed in a bell curve in our looks. It could be because we didn’t win the genetic lottery and it
could be other environmental insults to our system from in the womb to diseases to accidents. As we’ve also said, eating disorders are a problem which means both undereating and overeating lead to looks that are simply unattractive. The media plays its role in that it doesn’t emphasise health, but the resultant looks and different spheres of the media value different shapes and sizes depending on what’s fashionable. It also doesn’t necessarily come to the media’s attention whether the individual they’re praising is healthy or not. As well as this, what’s a healthy look for you isn’t necessarily a healthy look for me.
Beautiful is a strong word. Some of us are plain, cute or pretty.
Some of us are just old and our best days are gone. The season for beauty has ended.
It’s not a tragedy to not be beautiful on the outside. It doesn’t mean we can’t feel we look amazing when we’ve made an effort. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t look after ourselves.
It doesn’t mean we should become addicted to cosmetic procedures, with associated expenses and risks.
There’s always someone who’s on the same part of the beauty scale as you are. There’s always someone who’s into how you look. Let yourself be one of those people. It’s okay to work on your looks, but don’t harm yourself doing it.
Remember: You’re never the most objective person to judge how you look.
As far as beauty goes, inner beauty is by far the most important to me in terms of the everyday person I meet. If you’re hot and can get any man you want for casual relationships, but you are despised for your grating personality and lack of class, thus you have no friends and any relatives have ran away screaming long ago, what’s the point?
That said, whom I have a personality clash with does not necessarily translate universally. It’s surprising how certain personality traits are unexpectedly complimentary.
We’ve come to an age where it is very easy to become preoccupied with materialistic markers and work on materialistic improvement, but to neglect the development of our inner self: spiritually, practically, morally and our manners. Patience, grace, kindness, compassion and attention to how you come across are not innate things, but habits. You have to consciously ask yourself about the way you treat those around you and the way you act. Do you make sure what you do is beautiful, nevermind how you look?
Judging people is not a habit of mine, as far as I’m concerned. We are made of shades of gray. Some of us commit terrible crimes against those around us. In many cases we’re enabled by wider society. In some cases we aren’t. That still means that many of us are not beautiful on the inside.
No, not everyone is beautiful.
Yes, everyone secretly wishes they’re more beautiful than they are.